Church Safety

Last night after I’d gotten home, I sat down and watched a re-broadcast of Chanel 7 News.  And I listened with particular interest to the piece on Church Safety.

Church Safety, in particular, the safety of the other parishioners in my Church was one of the reasons I stopped going to Church.    Every Sunday when I arrived at Church, The Stalkers were already there waiting and eager to get started with their screams and taunts.  I know they disrupted the Service for me and I’m sure the rest of the Church felt the same way.

But mostly, I was appalled at how little respect people have today for the House of God.  I felt so bad that my Church members had to listen to all their garbage but so did God.

I maybe crazy, but at least I have the good sense not to act a fool in God’s house.  I just wish others could put down their imaginary (and sometimes real ones) grudges and do the same.

Eliza D. Ankum

The Stalkers – Pimping Out Their Kids

Photo courtesy of the Huffingpost

Last night I lay awake until nearly four in the morning listening to the off spring of my childhood stalkers cat-calling me.  Instead of being frightened by this all I felt was sorry for the kids.  I mean what kind of parent’s pimp-out their kids to do their stalking for them.  And this is by no means the first time.

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Erotic Humiliation

I love this new computer age because it gives, us, the general public access to information on a scale that has never been seen before in all of history.

With this unprecedented access to information the one subject I have researched time and again, when not doing research for a novel, is The Stalkers.   

And because of my research, I know that my first instinct about their screaming being a form of  sexual behavior was correct.   I referred to it as ‘getting their rocks off.’ 

But, The stalkers and others (usually some well meaning idiot, clueless and untrained police officer, or greedy person being promised some sort of bribe, i.e., free clothes, travel, or information) have always vowed that it was not.  And that these people were correcting my bad behavior.   Well, that idea that they were  ‘correcting my behavior’ is at the core of sexual humiliation.

I strongly agree with the description of sexual humiliation identified in the following description given of it in Wikipedia, except for the word consensual. Stalking a person takes away all consensual aspects of erotic humiliation making it erotic stalking

Erotic humiliation is a consensual technique, which uses psychological humiliation in order to receive erotic excitement or sexual arousal for the person being humiliated and demeaned or for the person humiliating, or for some spectator, and may be part of BDSM and other sexual roleplay or accompanied by the sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity.

Humiliation is a subjective issue, and is dependent on context. It does not need not be sexual in nature; as with many other sexual activities, it is the feelings that are obtained from the experience that are desired, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. Usually there is a feeling of submission for the person being humiliated, and dominance, for the person implementing the humiliation. It can be done verbally and/or physically, and can take place privately or publicly. Some individuals assume an acting role and others prefer to be spoken to in a degrading way. A classic technique that can be used to put the submissive into a bottom mind space is to humiliate them while also providing them with sexual stimulation. Select individuals who desire this form of humiliation also use it to acquire emotional release. Humiliation can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance (such as online).

While fantasy and fascination with erotic humiliation is a prevalent part of BDSM and other sexual roleplay, relatively little has been written on it.[1] Humiliation play can, however, be taken to a point where it becomes emotionally or psychologically distressing to one or the other partner, especially if it is public humiliation. Erotic humiliation can become extreme enough to be considered a form of edgeplay,

Verbal humiliation [

  • Animal play, referring to the recipient as a pet, dog, or bitch; making the humiliated one eat and drink from pet food and water bowls.[3]
  • Verbal belittlement, with such words as slave, boy, girl, missy, and pet.
  • Insultsand verbal abuse, such as fat, ugly, stupid, and worthless.
  • Degrading names, such as slut, shit, bitch, cunt, and whore.
  • Racial and ethnic slurs.
  • Disparaging or cruel references about breasts, facial appearance, genitalia (including size or circumcision status), buttocks, or about behaviors such as walking, responsiveness, and hygiene.
  • Requirement to ask permission for everyday activities, such as going to the toilet, spending money, and eating.
  • Forced repetition, such as the humiliated one being obliged to repeat commands that he or she has been given and to confirm them.
  • Forced flattery, such as agreeing that every decision that the dominant makes is wise, correct, and justifiable, while additionally praising the dominant’s physical and personality traits.
  • Mockeryderision, and ridicule.
  • Scolding of the type commonly reserved for children.[3]

 Read, study, learn.  And don’t get in the car the way my town did.

Eliza D. Ankum
Author of
STALKED! By Voices